MENTAL NOTE

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Sunday, February 9, 2014

The Importance of Looking in the Mirror

There are eight mirrors in my house. Based on that simple fact, some would say I'm vain. Anyone who's got as many mirrors on display as there are days in the week plus one must get a hard on looking at himself, especially when three of those are as big as your average door. But I'm not. 


When I prance around the house butt naked because I can't find my lucky towel, it never even crosses my mind to stand still and take a very good look at nature's work of art. Or a picture. You can ask Angie if you don't believe me. I avoid mirrors. And it has nothing to do with my 10 inch best friend that makes me feel like I can take on the entire world, so I just don't need to look in a mirror - just look down and make yourself believe it matters. Nope. That's not it.

And yet, at the same time it is my belief that looking in the mirror is one of the most importance things anyone can do. It is my belief there wouldn't have been thousands of years wasted by us people making ourselves believe we're better than others - be it neighboring countries or just neighbors - if we had just taken the time to take a very good look at ourselves and put ourselves in perspective. And when I say 'in perspective' I mean seeing ourselves without the aid of glass or any other kind of shiny object. Does that make me a saint? Am I saying I do look at myself and see myself in perspective and perfectly so? Am I telling you how good I am and therefore in fact showing off my vanity? No. What I'm saying is I'm trying. I'm trying to understand who I am in this world. I'm trying to see myself even if my eyes are closed or blind and make that person as good a human being as I possibly can. I look in that metaphorical mirror and tell myself: You should not hurt others. You should help others in need. You should allow people to look you in the eye. Drop the fucking politics. You're one person, a single person, and so is everybody else. 

But I'm telling you... it's not easy. It's easier to pretend to be vain. It's easier to play the game that has been played for as long as there have been people on this planet, while deepdown all we really care about is to be heard. Do you hear what I'm trying to say? Does what I say matter to you? Why is it so damn hard for everyone to look in the mirror at the same time and say, "Let's have a drink. Let's not shoot each other in the face"?

And, yes, that's a rhetorical question.

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88 comments:

  1. Damn, I wanted to answer that too
    You had to go all rhetorical at your zoo
    Much easier to be a vain ass
    Pretending you have such class
    That to take a hard look
    Realizing you're a bit of a crook
    But greed rules out
    Can look, stomp and shout
    As long as that is there
    so many will remain unaware

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    1. True, some are unaware
      Some don't care
      Others don't dare
      Many don't want to share
      Or just stare at their hair
      Mirror mirror on the wall
      Who's that friggin' beach ball?

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    2. But at which hair
      Do they stare?
      Ponder that
      From the cat

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    3. I hope the beach ball you're referring too is not connected to some head.

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    4. Wilson is on a roll
      Out for a stroll

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    5. On the Bora sand
      That's so much in demand

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  2. Well, consider your house as having 9 mirrors now that you're holding up this mirror to us. Jerk.
    I wanted to make with the ha-ha's about how I not only have a baker's dozen mirrors in my two bedroom place and how when I turn on the computer I activate the camera so I can look at myself whilst I surf the internet. But you've taken all the wind out of my sails. Stupid profundity. This is why I drink.

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    1. Finally someone bold enough to call me a jerk. I appreciate your honesty, Green Pickster Von Schöfhausen. I know I can always count on you pointing out my minor flaws. I see you. I see you. And that's why I love you. I do. Just don't drink so much or things will never work out. Isn't it great to speak your mind?

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  3. We need to have a beer summit. I have three mirrors, all very large, in my bedroom. I think I shall take a look at myself.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. In your bedroom? As if I didn't know. Come on, don't try to fool our fellow bloggers ;) Do take a look at thyself and please send us a report -tenfold.

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  4. If I were to look too long, I might crack the mirror ;)
    But I do hear you.

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    1. A good thing about a crack in the mirror is that it no two cracks are identical. Every crack is beautiful and unique. Yes, I'm still talking about... you know.... cracks.

      But I do hear you too, Lynda :)

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    2. I had a totally different kind of crack in my mind while reading these comments :)

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  5. Sooooooooooooooo.....

    How many of said mirrors are on the ceiling? ;oD

    We do have to accept ourselves as we are... no? :o)

    ~shoes~

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    1. Eight. It's a flaw the ladies are trying to accept. ;) Yes.

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  6. I wouldn't mind playing a mirror in the houses of people who like to walk around naked :)
    Believe it or not, I've never had a big mirror in my house, just a small one in the bathroom in which I can see my head only, so the only time I actually see myself is in the shop windows :(
    And it's for the better, because I don't think I will ever accept my physical appearance the way it is... so it's easier to live in ignorance :)

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    1. I believe you, Dezmond. I know you're not one to lie to me. I've been looking at you for a long time now, except for when I was in the Land of Psychedelia I think it was called, and I've seen. Full stop. And I know. That's all there is to it.

      Everytime I inadvertently see my perfectly shaped body in a shop window, I feel the need to run away. Away from my stalkers, you know, the ones hiding behind trees. It's depressing. Now don't you be getting depressed too, you hear?

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  7. It can be dreadfully hard to really take a look at yourself. I did it last year and it was pretty painful. I'm in the midst of doing it again so I can continue to improve my flaws and turn them into assets.

    BTW, I love the cartoon that the Beer Boys did for you.

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    1. That's exactly how I see it: look in the mirror and try to improve your flaws. Not an easy thing to do, no.

      The Beer Boys are awesome, alright.

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  8. I never look me in the mirror isn't important to me ha!
    Always I see me when I wash my teeths and make up !!
    Yesterdao I forget the make up and only remember when
    I go to sleep!
    Happens my parents are here and have to do a lot of things, really a lot believe me, and how is hot I think I will swim before lunch and was ok but later I made the lunch, and read the newspaper and come the dinner and I forget lol
    Not really I dont use mirrors! ha!

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    1. You don't need a mirror to know you're beautiful, Gloria Dear. Ha! (Did you borrow your 'Ha!' from Betsy?)

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    2. I always say ha maybe is for Betsy (I dont know) but in spanish I say JA!!

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    1. I had no idea. Are you keeping secrets from your blue friend?

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    2. Is not a secret dear, did you see the pool in my last pictures (??with the cake) xxx

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    3. Ah... I should have noticed. I'm doing much better. Still very ill, but much much better. :)

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    4. Gloria has a pool? Why hasn't she invited us to spend summer there, yet? :)

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    5. What do you mean... 'us'? I've already booked a flight.

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  10. It's odd the things that I pick up on a post. I read this one twice in an effort to get a grasp on my comment. It's about mirrors and seeing yourself the way you really are and seeing others the way they really are... but also about understanding that everyone really just wants to be HEARD. And that is a problem because we all enjoy talking so damn much.

    Either you posted it, and I missed it, or you haven't posted it, so I will ask... how are you feeling these days? Still dizzy? Able to type your own posts? How are things with YOU????

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    1. We enjoys talking too much, alright. And we includes us bloggers. That is a problem.

      No, I didn't write a post about how I'm doing now. When I decided to shut down my blog, I had pretty much given up hope. I was convinced my situation would be getting even worse so what's the point. But after a lot of patience and a bunch of friendly doctors, we've been able to improve my situation. I can read and write, if with trembling hands, and the world is still shaking 24/7 (oscillopsia) - but that's nothing compared to my psychedelic adventure last year. I've been reading a lot of books these past few weeks as you can imagine. And though I am always experiencing something that resembles a permanent jet lag, I'm as happy as can be. In a grumpy way, of course. Thanks for asking, Robin. I hope my post made a bit of sense. I mean, you read it twice.

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  11. We're flattered that you posted that picture. It accentuates this post well. And this house used to belong to my brother-in-law who's insanely vain, so it has at least 15-20 mirrors. He even hung pictures of HIMSELF in the bathroom. Top that.

    And yet, for all of those mirrors, I haven't looked as hard as you have. I think I might need to.

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    1. It does accentuate this post. You're so right. I mean, if that's the real me, I need to take a really good look. But seriously, thanks again for taking the time to draw this one for me even if I look like a blue Nosferatu. Pictures of himself in the bathroom. Maybe those pictures help him get rid of his constipation - a visual laxative as it were. He might be on to something.

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  12. Mirrors--

    We are a mirror are we not--

    Whatever is inside of us gets mirrored in our faces to others.

    That is the only mirror one should need. Hopefully, we are mirroring love and joy.

    It's been a "ruff" week my friend. Buttons' loss has been extremely hard on me this week. Moment-by-moment that is all I can do right now.

    Hope u are recovering daily.

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    1. Poor little creature. I'll never forget how much you loved and love little Buttons. Animals are so easy to love, wouldn't you say? They look at you and see what we may never be able to see. Yes, we are a mirror. But all too often because we choose to be one.

      I am recovering daily. Thank you for asking, Miss Stormy Marples.

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  13. Two things the world could do without Grumps:
    1. Pride
    2. Ego
    And then I can guarantee that looking into the mirror won't be that bad and the world would be a better place.

    But unfortunately, there are many many people whose mammies didn't love them as children, so they have a need to prove something to the world - to prove that they are SOMEONE... because deep down inside they fell like shit. And that's why there are many people you can't just hang out with or have a drink with, because they're still hung up on something that happened to them in the 2nd
    grade...

    Anyway, I could go on for days.

    PS. I think you're pretty awesome Grumps... worthy of looking into all those mirrors :D

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    1. Azra the Wise is who you are. Whenever you speak I listen. Now why is that? I tell you why that is: because I see you.

      Go on for years but do throw a bit of fun stuff in the mix every now and then ;) You don't want to end up like pretty awesome Grumps.

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    2. That's why we're related cousin Grumps ;P

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  14. What does it say about me that I don't mind looking at myself in the mirror but I hate looking at pictures of myself?

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    1. That's deep. With me it's the other way around. Maybe I'm shallow after all.

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    2. This quote is golden. I need it in bumper sticker

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  15. OK, now I am imagining this character on the right running around, butt naked. Come to think of it, rather like Dr. Manhattan.

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    1. Dear Lord. Now I'm imagining the exact same thing.

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  16. I look at myself in the mirror and think about how thin I am.

    Time to chug down another protein shake and head back to the gym.

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    1. Thin is gorgeous, Damian, don't worry about it!

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  17. I am not ready for these deep thoughts, I can't face the mirrors right now. Can we not just drink instead? Also I don't like to look into mirrors after midnight in case something tries to crawl out....

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    1. What.... do you think I'm ready? My brain was hijacked and deep thoughts were implanted, is all. I'm like Einstein on steroids. Let's have a drink. You're buying because I'm modern.

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  18. Mirror, mirror on the wall...

    I hate vanity, yet I fall prey to it as everybody does. This is how the world judges you. It has to be nice and pretty and perfect to be loved or eaten or touched or shagged senseless.
    Mirrors are evil. Everytime I look in one I find endless faults.
    Do people really Hear you? I'm not buying it.

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    1. You and I.... both preys.... Who would've thought? I have never been shagged senseless. What's wrong with me, Jules? No 12" I suppose. Thanks for asking.

      No, I don't think people really hear us. But some come pretty close. It's like when you're standing with your pants down and nothing happens. But still.... pretty close. ;)

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  19. I currently only have a bathroom mirror! Need to get a large one.

    Thank you. Love love, Andrew. Bye.

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    1. Love love.... You don't happen to be Janie's cousin? ;) Thanks for stopping by WordsPoeticallyWorth.

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  20. Let's have a drink. Let's not shoot each other in the face. Unless it's with jello shooters. Then I'm all for it. Cuz our faces are where the Jello shooters are supposed to go.

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    1. Sounds like a plan. What are you drinking? :)

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  21. All my mirrors tell me "you should never trust anyone in management. You should never trust anyone at a small company. You should go to work for yourself and never trust anyone." But unfortunately they don't pay me anything, so I can't listen to them.

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    1. We must've bought our mirrors in the same store.

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  22. If you truly want to see yourself you don't need a mirror you need to
    look inside your heart for here is where the real you resides, what
    matters to you and how you feel are locked inside..waiting to come
    out and say hello..this is me..your mind tries to play tricks on you
    when you aren't looking and the looking glass can be deceiving..

    Or meditate and travel to the other realm for there you will see reflections
    of yourself in a pool of crystal water..and in stillness the water will ask of thee
    "what do you see" and what will your reply be???

    Glad you are feeling better my blue friend...

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    1. That's exactly what I'm saying: "seeing ourselves without the aid of glass or any other kind of shiny object". See, I'm so vain I relish the thought of quoting myself. The looking glass can be deceiving alright. Deceiving day and night even after a fight or when you switch off the light.

      Thanks, Truedessa. I just stopped by WordsPoeticallyWorth and I called you "the embodiment of poetry". See, I'm quoting again. I'm feeling much better. Tired 24/7 but I can read again.

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    2. Blue,

      Are you still blue? Hope you are feeling better..don't worry about the looking glass unless you plan to use it for a portal to the other side of
      reality..thanks for the kind words my friend..tired is my life but, I just keep going and going as I have to...it's called life and sometimes if you are lucky you will experience beautiful moments in azure sky..

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    3. Yes, I'm very blue. But... I think it looks good on me. ;) I'm doing much better but somewhere along the line, I seem to have lost my sense of humor. I need to go find it real soon or how else am I to deal with this thing called life? Thank God for the beautiful moments in azure sky.

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  23. You are back!! I am so excited. Not only because I am happy to read your blog, but also because I'm hoping it means your health is in a better place.

    I hate mirrors. I generally look at myself once in the morning and that's it. It's not because I think I'm awful looking, but because for one thing, I often change my opinion about what I see, and it definitely can affect my attitude. And for the other thing, I agree, I would much rather focus on the interior.

    I had to start a new blog...here's the link if you want to pop over: Home

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    1. nope, didn't do the link correctly...anyway it is www.writesydaisy.com.

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    2. There she is. I've been looking for you, Kianwi. And not to fix you up with my son. Wait, I don't have a son. With myself? Wait, Angie's sitting right next to me. Ah now I remember... because your blog is, I quote, "soothing". I think the Green Pickster is right. He missed me too. I'm so puzzled.

      You're BACK!

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    3. P.S. Logic and vanity dictates that you press that button again now that you've got a new home. Which one?

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    4. just don't press the Blue button :)

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    5. Why in the world not? Oh that one.

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    6. a plug or a button .... I am not sure anymore :)

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    1. Is breakfact ready? Yes? Good, I'll be there in a minute! :)

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    2. I bet she'll bring you the breakfast over to the pool to which poor little Dezzy coon wasn't invited :)

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    3. I hope she knows what breakfact means, for I don't... I blame my medication.

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    4. I'm sure Gloria Dearest has a raspberry pill for you :P

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  25. So, if I switch your soap for coalblack or something you cant notice for days? Give me your address please..

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    1. I can't believe my eyes! Last night I was thinking about bloggers I hadn't talked to in a very long time, and your name popped up inside my handsome blue head. And now... you're here? How could this be?

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    2. I suspect witchcraft and hocus pocus :)
      How is you, Bluester? Feeling the blues?

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    3. Feeling the blues is like peeing: it's a continuous flow. I'm doing okay, thanks for asking. Just tired 24/7, is all. How are you today, handsome blogstar?

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    4. tired too, my dear Blue... obviously not enough to miss the rhyme.... but that ain't a crime.... Play the song again for me, Blue, I like the blues....

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    5. # Ooooooooh I'm so blue
      I don't know what to do
      Could it be that I'm a bit crazy
      About you-hooooooooooooou


      You mean that song?

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    6. yep, love the sax in it... it's so smooth...

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    7. Just for you, Dezz. Don't go putting it on iTunes or an old-fashioned CD, now. ;)

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  26. I have many many mirrors as well....
    They tell me. How beautiful I am....
    How much weight I need to lose...
    How I look in a certain outfit...
    You know.....the usual stuff....
    I love mirrors....
    Enjoy your day....
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)

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